I am absolutely fine!
Yes, we know that – somewhere we all are just ‘absolutely’ fine. There is nothing as such in life that is disturbing, or taking a toll on our health or adding to any misery. We get up every morning, while away our time checking last night’s WhatsApp messages, checking if someone liked our recent Facebook post or commented on it, brushing our teeth and as the foam fills up the mouth remembering the boy (or the girl) on Tinder who said would be meeting this evening. Hurry to the gym or to the yoga class or wait for the trainer to be home. Take that cab or the metro to work or drive away imagining our boss’ twisted face at the meeting or the secretary sitting behind the desk and smiling at us invitingly. Or worrying about the next presentation or the audit where our salary will be decided for the next financial year. Coming back home and listening to what wife has to say about her new set of dresses that she got from Select City, or where is hubby taking us out to dinner and perhaps what the child(ren) has to say about his/her first class in school. By dinner we are back to our laptops checking out emails and notifications and chatting in between to our spouses and lovers, having one last look at the WhatsApp inbox and the Messenger inbox and drifting off to sleep without any idea of how the day went by.
What happens to consciousness?
It is definitely lost. Dissipated. Evaporated. Escaped the body. With all those thoughts concentrated and projected on things, events, and the imagined future, a large part of our consciousness also doesn’t remain in the body. Even in sleep when we are dreaming we are constantly projecting our thoughts to places and spaces outside the physical body. There is not a single moment in the day when we have sat down (or stood) in one place and have thought of ‘nothing’. We have always been thinking. We always think. And most importantly all of those thoughts are about people and prospective events that will take place during the day. In this process, we keep going out of the body with every thought and we are unaware of it. Consciousness escapes and we do not collect it back.
What happens next?
Sometime later – a few weeks, months or a year – we decide to go for a holiday. Go to a retreat or sea beach and have a nice quiet time. Pop an anti-anxiety tab casually at times to relieve the stress, or pick up a bottle of Ashvagandha for Stress Relief from Fab India. Go for a movie and chill. Or go for a family meal to have a night out. But what happens next? You are back to your routine and life remains ‘absolutely’ fine.
Most of us would like to believe that people need to go for Therapy only when there is a diagnosed mental illness or a psychological ailment. But that’s where almost all of us go wrong. For we wait, we let everything-that-may-be-troubling-us take a monstrous shape and only when it breaks loose over our heads we run to see a Doctor. Even then, we are so afraid to confront the truth, to address our issues, to know ourselves better – that we only want quick-fix solutions. What can be easier than to pop a pill and let the chemicals die down. After all they are nothing but symptoms – just a little stress catching up, isn’t it? But in doing so, consciousness still remains outside the body and is never retrieved.
So what do I do?
When clients come to me in a state of disarray and scrambling all over the place, when that little stress becomes large as the world. When those same thoughts and that same lifestyle doesn’t let you be absolutely fine. When consciousness has totally left the body – I still give them the option of choosing between the pill and the couch.
But I also tell them,
“Treat Therapy as care, as affection, as kindness towards yourself – something that you would regularly do to love yourself better. Something like cooking a good meal on Saturdays to pamper yourself, getting a beautiful bottle of perfume that you can indulge in, running or exercising in the morning because you want to look better. The soul too needs that ‘care’, that investment. Hence, resolve yourself and don’t wait for an illness to strike. Therapy isn’t just for the one who identifies himself or herself with an illness. It is an ongoing process for you to make sure that while investing your thoughts, emotions and consciousness in so many things outside your system throughout the day – for days, months and years – you don’t ultimately end up losing yourself. It’s nothing but a choice to love yourself a bit more. And perhaps know how to look within and learn the art of ‘attending to yourself’ for a change.”